Michele’s Sudden Change
In Part 2 of this series, we learned the fact that the former husband and Michele’s relationship grew stronger, in part, due to their counseling with the Pastor of the World Mission Society Church of God. Michele’s former husband tells how he made it his life goal to live a happy life with Michele in their newly purchased house, following God and the Bible at the Church of God.
Now in Part 3 of this series, we will learn more about the issues between Michele and her then husband, and how the Church again helped them during their trials.
Everything seemed to be going well in my relationship with Michele. We had our wedding, which the Church members helped us prepare. We went on our honeymoon. Contrary to the allegation that Church members cannot go on vacation, Michele and I went to Mexico.
Once we returned from our honeymoon everything changed. On a Tuesday, Michele called me at work to tell me that she needed to show me something. She said that she had been looking for more evidence to show that Constantine did indeed abolish the Sabbath, but she had come across some other websites that spoke against the Church of God. I remember her mentioning that the Church “lied” to her in regards to some of its teachings.
After speaking to her, we decided not to attend service that very night. I remember Michele being very angry and stating that she felt like a fool for attending the Church, but I on the other hand felt lost. Lost because I knew that everything I had learned until that point was clear and it was coming from the Bible. I knew that nowhere else would I be able to see and study the Bible in this way, and my time as a Church member had filled me with a lot of happiness in my life. I felt that there had to be some sort of explanation and reason, why at that particular moment, it seemed not to make sense.
We decided to go and meet with the Pastor in order to get answers for our questions and express the concerns we had. As we met with the Pastor and some other church members, I felt satisfied with all the answers that were provided, while Michele was not as satisfied at all. But by the end of the meeting, we both decided we would continue to attend the Church.
Although Michele agreed to continue attending the Church, I felt as if she did not want to remain a member. The questions that Michele presented to the Church from that point on were not sincere, and even if she was given an accurate answer, Michele did not try to understand the answer. It seemed from that point on, her mission was to make me agree with her completely in an effort to make me leave the Church.
After this, we began arguing nonstop. No matter what we may have been discussing or arguing about, by the end of it, Michele would bring something up about the Church. Every night, I felt like I had to defend my faith to my wife, who did not want to respect nor tolerate my religious beliefs. She continuously said spiteful things in order to hurt my feelings. This was her tactic to get me to leave the Church.
It seemed that the more I became involved with the Church, the more Michele attacked me. Now that I look back, I wonder sometimes if she was just using the Church to get what she wanted, which was for us to get married. Michele had this obsession with marriage, she always talked about the fact that her Mom was going to get married a second time, before she even got married once.
After several months of intense and increasingly hurtful arguments, I went to the Pastor many times, determined to speak to him about my plan to leave Michele, but on every occasion, he consoled me and advised me not to leave her, but instead to stay with her and even give her more love, in the hope that we would find a common ground where we could both be happy in our marriage.
Taking the Pastor’s advice, I tried to spend more time with her for months thereafter, while attempting to keep my faith in God despite her objection, but nothing was good enough for her. She would not be happy until I left the Church. She wanted me to make a decision, which I thought was unfair, she wanted me to decide either her or the Church. Why should I give up either one of the things that I love? Why can’t I have my wife and my faith both be part of my life?
Michele Colón made her former husband’s life miserable, even asking for an unreasonable demand. In society, there are many couples who have different beliefs, yet they remain happily married. If that wasn’t enough, Michele introduced him to the Church, but now that Michele didn’t want to be part of the Church, she wanted him to leave also. When he decided to remain a member, Michele couldn’t tolerate it and she made it her goal to make him leave the Church.
In Part 4 of our series, we will begin to learn how Michele’s behavior was the main factor in the demise of her marriage.